Do what I can but still have questions 3

[soccerwife]

So I had another session with my DB coach last night and she made a number of suggestions that won't necessarily bring him closer to me, they actually push him away but it is a risk I have to take. However, she did help me get through the conversation H wanted to have about D. I told him I have been thinking a lot about what he is asking of me and I started to make a list of what my personal plan is and what I am willing to do and not do in the case of D.

In the meantime, I have to regroup and kick DB'ing into high gear. AAI, 180's, GAL's - just continue working on myself. I still believe that I can be a better wife, mother and woman than I have been in the past. I also believe that if H and I can behave as friends for a while, his feelings for me will grow again, even though he is dead set on the notion that he will never feel in love with me again. I guess this is what this is all about.

The mood in the house is more subdued today because the conversation last night was productive and polite. H's anger lever was brought down a smidge. And, he is still accepting of the live together after D idea, which give me unlimited time and opportunity to DB. So I am going to have to start researching that.

Can anyone out there offer advice on living together after D? I need help with just about everything, ground rules, interactions, money...