Thank you, all of you, for your kind and heartfelt replies in my last thread. I read them this morning - at 4:30 AM - and felt good about how things were handled. I'm still in shock and numb, but not as much.
25yearsmlc...what can I say? It has all the makings of a bad sitcom. Here are a few more facts:
OM, OM's mother and W have known each other since W's high school days, but had lost touch with each other until W contacted OM on FB last October.
OM, OM's mother and W have seen each other only once since then (for 2 days) when W visited them this past February.
OM and OM's mother currently live together in Colorado. OM's mother has many health problems, including the beginning stages of Parkinson's, which is tragic and I do feel for her. From what I have gleaned, she is a sweet woman.
OM has temporary work in Colorado as a welder/sheet metal fabricator and will join W and his mother when that is completed.
OM likes to drink. A lot. And party. A lot.
Through conversations with SS21's father and stepmother, SS21 has not adjusted well to W's new living arrangement. Because one of the traits of autism is a lack of social skills and interaction, SS21 will not adjust well to 2 new people in W's house, especially another male sleeping with Mom.
Sounds like a boatload of fun to me...
I am relieved. I am at peace with this. I am also concerned about W. She has lost touch with reality and is trying to live in some strange world. This living situation she is creating is not going to end well. I want her to be happy and content with herself, but she refuses to work on her own issues ("nothing wrong with me; it's the rest of you who are crazy").
This site has been a lifeboat for me. I'm going to continue to post as this plays out to the end, and offer what I can to others here. The lessons I've learned from you have been invaluable; hopefully I can pass some of that wisdom to others who are hurting.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
