Sometimes being between a rock and a hard place is a great opportunity for self growth.
These kinds of dilemmas are never fun, but when you make the choice to act from your integrity - well you will benefit no matter what. You become a more complete self - and yes, this might mean experiencing some serious pain. But at least its the right kind of pain.
Expect more of the same behavior from your H for the time being. If he doesn't just up and leave I would prepare for tantrums and whatnot. It isn't about you - it's him not getting things his way and trying to use anger and drama to regain some control.
I think you are on the right track - you have to take care of yourself and that means holding on to your integrity. Don't sell yourself out to someone else's drama. You've come too far. N'at.
M: 32 W: 29 T: 9 Years M: 4 Years I hit rock bottom: 2/11 PA admitted: 4/11 WAW: 5/11 D filed: 6/11 now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.