Tad, your letter should be for you right now. Not her. Don't send it.
NC is very hard at first, but you will find in time that it is very helpful -- for you.
Please don't ask about them coming back right now. Assume that they will not, and act and plan accordingly.
This is all very hard, I know. Keep posting, and please take everyone's advice to heart, no matter how difficult it is. Trust them -- they know what of they speak.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man