Text her back and say you got tied up tonight and you will talk later to talk about when is a good time to pick up her things...
This "script," I guess, will go over like a ton of bricks...
Sorry man...
JMHO
^^^^^^^^ Absolutely agree with Country Cam. In fact, I'd skip the text tonight and text her tomorrow sometime... "got tied up last night. let's talk next week about a good time for you to come over"
Why? Your only chance here is to get HER wondering about YOU and what YOU are doing. Pique her interest.
Now... as far as your script goes?
I absolutely agree with what you DB coach said, but you have to let it come to you. In other words, you can't say, "about that stuff you complained about, it is valid..."
If the convo shifts to your R and to why she is leaving you, then you validate her complaints and issues.
"Yes W, you are right... I s*ck a$$"
"Yes W, the moon is made of chocolate"
1) Don't initiate R talk - Let it come to you
2) Actively LISTEN to your W... shut your mouth and listen... and this goes with R talk as well as non-R talk... women want us to listen to them.
3) when you have listened so much that your ears are bleeding, LISTEN some more.
4) Validate, validate, validate... You can ALWAYS find at least something in what your W says that you can agree with
5) Do NOT argue under any circumstances
6) If you find yourself getting upset and wanting to lash out or defend yourself... get off the phone ASAP
7) Try to be the one who ends the conversation...
THOSE are the rules that you should be living by when talking with your W right now.
If you are familiar with my sitch, you know that it is currently f'd... BUT, the above is what I did to get my W from being DONE to at least questioning what she wants.
BITS Denver
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AND ... the longer that you can prolong this without it being obvious, the better. JMO.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
