Yeah I guess I can see where you're coming from....it is not natural, it was just a way he thought that I could demonstrate kindness, affirmation and validate how she feels. I suppose it's not natural, as its not expected and there would be nothing leading to it....unless she exploded on me again which she wouldn't unless I provoke it. So if I am to practice this new approach then there may not be an opportunity. The Coach actually said for me to initiate a contact to tell her I have some stuff she may need, and then give her a different view of the person I've been; ie negative probing of why she is doing this to us.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
