Let me just say for the record why tis board is so great. It allows one to say things from an emotional level. React (much like I did) from raw emotion.
I must say sad that this ^^^^ is very true. We all come from different places brought here by the same pain. We let out our emotions in different ways but when you peel away the anger it is our heart and kindness that keeps us bounded to each other.
2step, I agree with you as well. So I only have one final question.
I understand the concept, "kill them with kindness".
But when, if ever...
Is it truly time to cut the leash, and allow them to truly FEEL the weight of their decisions? What a great question...I am not sure how to answer it other than to say....When I am emotionaly ready to completely cut the chord I will know it. I think she feels the consequences of her actions already, matter of fact I am convinced of it. What I think she needs to start doing is accept responsibility for her decisions and stop blaming me. We all like to say 'they will regret it' I suppose it makes us feel better but the truth is most of us will never know if that is the case. The day will come sad, but one of the many things I have learned from all of this is to speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret. I did not delete her from FB until I was ready, I did not delete her pictures from my profile until I was ready, I did not stop responding to all of her text and phone calls until I was ready. When I have the strengh to act I will but not before because if you do they will never respect you. Boundaries mean nothing unless you are willing to enforce them and accept the consequences of those boundaries. Hope that helps
Also, 2step, I have to say that you are an extremely compassionate and empathetic person. Your next W will be a lucky woman.
( bro hug ) - Note it's not to close... lol...
Half man hug and pat on the back. Keeping it manly!!
