My faith gives me the courage to move forward

[25yearsmlc]

i dont want to get mil upset. she was angry at me a yr ago the last time we spoke, because she blamed me for h and i problems. for asking him to leave 4 yrs ago because of bad advice from the therapist. I dont know if she would want to see me..

what's the worst, realistically, that could happen if you called and asked to see her? She might be a lot more forgiving of you than you expect.

Plus, you did ask your h to leave. Why would your mil bring that up now, when he's been with OW for so long? Besides, if she does, you can own your issues and say you would do things differently if you could do it over and leave it at that. She'll notice the 180 (no blame or pleading or pressure)...

(And when you can, please tell me why you still blame the therapist for your divorce? It was four years ago. Surely her few meetings with you did not cause all this? Why don't you face that issue more squarely? I mean, at least answer the questions we ask 29 times OR tell us why you won't.

TBH, once you face the questions you hide from, your progress might just begin. The more you hide from them, the more they linger and stay, festering, never addressed....kind of like your h and you...)


Rys, you are letting your fear of your feelings being hurt by your mil, an old sick woman prevent you from reaching out.

All you want to do is let her know what she once meant to you, right?

You honestly think she'll rail gainst you for that? So what if she does? It would simply mean she's either mentally ill now too, or bitter. Either way, She's sick and probably dying...time is short.

Won't you regret not reaching out to her? What kind of example are you setting for your son?

Did you read my post about my own mil? Please read it again...and
Put your fear and pride aside and make things right.

Good luck...