Picked up SS21 at his day program as a favor to his stepmother; usually she gets him on Wednesday afternoons, but couldn't today. No problem. I was glad to see him, it's been almost a month.
On the way to my house I asked the usual questions: how was his day, what did he do, what did he have for lunch, etc. Then I asked him how he liked his Mom's new house. His reply:
SS21: Mr. R****(OM) and Miss D****(OM's mother) are coming!"
The dry mouth, the tightness in the chest, the icepick in the heart...all came rushing in.
M: What do you mean, they're coming?
SS21: Mr. R**** and Miss D**** are coming to live with Mom!"
He was very excited about it.
We got to my house, SS21 got on the computer to play his games and I called W. After chit-chat about SS21's day, I said:
M: SS21 said (OM) and (OM's mother) are coming to live with you.
Silence.
W: I was going to talk to you about that.
M: I see. So what is going on?
W: (OM's mother) can't take the thin air anymore, so her dr. told her she has to move. I asked her to move in with me.
M: I see. And when will this happen?
W: Next week.
M: I see. And what about (OM)?
W: He's moving here as soon as his work runs out. (Apparently he has some temporary employment)
M: I see. And where will he be living?
W: Here. With me. But there's nothing going on between us.
M: I see. So it's you, (OM), (OM's mother) and SS21 all living in a 2 bedroom condo?
Silence.
M: (W), that's it. I've taken all I'm willing to take. I will not be in an open marriage, nor will I be in a marriage with you doing what you are doing. Find a mediator, let me know when we meet and please get the rest of your belongings out of my house as soon as possible.
W, who is starting to cry: Can we talk about this?
M: Nothing to really talk about, is there? Let me know when we sit down with a mediator. Goodbye.
And that's it. I feel sad, angry, hurt, relieved, confused and still a little numb.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
