Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
Originally Posted By: Drew
Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
I have told W a number of times that I am so sorry that I didn't respect how she felt about these things

So stop telling her.

Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
That I would never do that to her again.

And WHEN SHE GIVES YOU THE CHANCE - show her.

Just show her.


If you tell her that you're showing her - you're back to square one.


I have tried Drew.

Um...except YOU checked HER messages in Disneyland, remember? And then you got all mad at HER.

And when she asked you a straightforward question about OW and sex, you got all wordy and legalese on her...(and I should know.) Why didn't you just say "We just began dating and I have not slept with her" OR

"we're just friends and I have NOT slept with her", etc...see how much faster those answers are ?


There have been a couple of different times when I have had an opportunity to show her that I don't have a problem with her having a password of mine... for example with my phone when we were at disney land and she needed to use the navigation on my phone.

hey, this seems so small to me....Denver, "scorecard much"?

The problem is, she just doesn't seem to be getting it.

It's like she is trying to convince herself that I am still this horrible guy who could never change.


^^^that belief is probably her safety mechanism. She thinks it protects her.

Somehow she's simply going to have to become more UNcomfortable without you in her life, than with you.

Figure out what you can do help that happen, while knowing you can only do your part.


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change