Wife no longer in love with me - Part 2

[cam]

I just responded with:

"Hi, I will give you a call tonight to discuss this. This weekend is no good with me, as I am down the Coast, so next weekend should be fine"

My DB Coach said I should try and interact with her and acknowledge what she went through in our R and then be positive and organise for her to collect everything. Affirm and listen to her.

[cam]

She just responded with:
"not a worry, whenever works for you"

[♪CS♪]

I just responded with:

"Hi, I will give you a call tonight to discuss this. This weekend is no good with me, as I am down the Coast, so next weekend should be fine"

My DB Coach said I should try and interact with her and acknowledge what she went through in our R and then be positive and organise for her to collect everything. Affirm and listen to her.

So how are you planning on handling the call tonight?

I am not disagreeing with your DB coach.

IF you can handle it.

So far you have fallen apart when you two talk.

So....

Know YOUR limits right now.

[cam]

I'm going to write out a script and rehearse it and stick to it. I actually think I can and I want to try.
Plan is to be short, acknowledge her and the last conversation we had and what she said, which didn't go down too well.
Then just say let's chat next week re a time to get your things and end the call.
As Gritter said I figure I have nothing to lose, everything I've done in the past has been wrong and hasn't worked, so I may as well try this and see where it gets me.
I don't expect it will do anything.....she has her mind set and is past the point of no return, so I guess how much worse can it be.

[aeolianchaos]

Stick to the plan, my man.

Keep in mind - you can have your emotions, but don't let your emotions have you.

good luck.

[Julz]

I would have just contacted her and said sorry busy this weekend, contact me next week and we'll see if we can organise something for the weekend after.

Why do you need to call her tonight to discuss it? That's extra contact that isn't necessary IMO.

[cam]

I guess because as my DB coach put it, I am on limited time if I am to turn this around, as she will be moving back to the States sometime soon I presume.
So I wanted to try and communicate some of what DB Coach told me yesterday to say to her and see how it goes. I have nothing to lose anymore.

[cam]

OK, so this is my script for the phone call:

Hi,
How have you been?
What have you been up to? (are these two questions chasing?)
You know how last time we spoke you expressed your hurts and disappointments with me and our marriage, well I have been thinking about that and I understand what I did made you hurt and I accept what you’re feeling is valid. I can see how you would have felt. And it’s really sad that things didn’t work out between us and I really regret what I did or didn’t do.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that.
So, next Saturday should be ok with me for you to come over. Let’s confirm during the week.
Have a good weekend.
Bye

Thoughts???

[♪CS♪]

Thoughts???

Mine?

Text her back and say you got tied up tonight and you will talk later to talk about when is a good time to pick up her things...

This "script," I guess, will go over like a ton of bricks...

Sorry man...

JMHO

[cam]

Really???? Why do you think that?
It's basically word for word what the DB Coach said.

I don't know what to do!

Thanks for your thoughts Country