I'm going to go with the unpopular hard line here and I expect 2x4's but here goes.
Why?
Your WAW was deceitful and turned her back on your M.
Your W CHOOSE a path where your she does not want to depend on you. To not support, to not confide, to not protect. And Vice versa.
All her choices.
BUT...
When it's convenient for her, your W chooses to rely, depend on you. And for what?
Emotional Support? Nope.
Physical support? Nope.
Spiritual support? Nope.
MONEY! MONEY! MONEY!
SO WRONG IN MY BOOK...
If she wants help, she has a family.
You are not her family. And she choose that.
If she wants help she has OM.
You are not her man and she choose that.
If you ask me, your W has a lot of BA!!S asking you for money.
Did she need you by her side to help get her through her greiving process?
Of course not.
Because she does not need you for that.
She needed MONEY...
Your wife made her decision and now needs to live with the decision she made.
Sorry if it's harsh. And I realize that I will now be demonized for being angry. But I feel it's OK to be angry in a situation like this.
It just feel it was wrong.
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012