Everything is going well in my world! School has started and it is great! I am excited about this year because I feel a lot of positive energy. We are also trying a new schedule that I am excited about. Also the science department is each getting an iPad 2 and macbook to start preparing for next year when we go book free. IT is all fun and exciting and I get some new toys to use at work and home S's fits have been minimal during this time, like one a week when he has to leave his cousins so normal 3/4 year old stuff, but no hitting me or kicking me, and only crying instead of yelling at me. He has also learned to add 1+...up to 9. He is loving his new class at daycare and is learning to write and letter sounds so reading isn't too far away. Kindergarten next year.
I do have one question because I am still new at the D part. XH had S the first weekend in August, since he dropped S off August 7, he has not contacted me to find out about S at all, or checked in on him. I am ok without the contact because S is doing great and it makes my life so much better. I really am loving my life and am not looking for extra drama. But my question is, is that normal since S is 3. I know when he is older XH could just call S, but he could do that now and was doing that when he wanted more time during the D process, but now nothing. Is it normal?
Also should I be updating XH at times? I have always taken the stance that XH can have as much or as little contact with S as he wants. If he wants updates, he just has to initiate the conversation because S is 3 and shouldn't be made to call daddy if he doesn't ask to, now if S asked to talk to XH I would have him call no problem. If there was an emergency I would text XH to let him know what is going on, but should I be trying to communicate more with him? Once again asking because I don't know what is "normal". I also don't want to look like I am kicking XH out of S's life because I am not initiating contact. I just was wanting some thoughts.
This all came up in my mind because XH has S again this weekend (XH asked me to switch his middle weekend for the first weekend). I realized that S hasn't heard from XH in almost a full 3 weeks, and thought that was strange, but maybe it isn't.
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S's fits have been minimal during this time, like one a week when he has to leave his cousins so normal 3/4 year old stuff, but no hitting me or kicking me, and only crying instead of yelling at me. He has also learned to add 1+...up to 9. He is loving his new class at daycare and is learning to write and letter sounds so reading isn't too far away. Kindergarten next year. 