Go see your mil asap. NOT as a tactic to show your h or any reason other than b/c it's the right thing to do.
My mil did not call our children the entire 2 years h was gone, unless he happened to be visiting at the time. That hurt. She missed 2 high school graduations and a college graduation so she would not have to "leave her dogs with strangers." These are her only grandchildren.
When she got cancer, d20 and I flew out to help her through her first round of chemo. We never got an apology nor did I expect one. I have no regrets today about how I/we showed up for her.
I modelled something for my kids. Sometimes you "show up" for someone even when they don't ask.
Instead of panicking about seeing your h or worse, the evil terrifying ow...
go see mil by yourself, when you know h is at work.
Reach out to her b/c it's the right, Christian thing to do.
If somehow someway, your h is there, Or if OW is, do NOT flee.
Don't let your insecurities keep you from speaking to your mil, (&the grandmother of your son.)
Instead, hold your head high, ask for a minute of privacy with mil to tell her what she meant to you. Tell her, then offer her help if she needs anything from you, and then politely CALMLY, go home.
(Aside from being the right thing to do and knowing you'll have no regrets later, it would also be a HUGE 180 for you).
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
