WTF?!?! - Artpay Otway

[25yearsmlc]

Denver,
I don't want to nitpick every single thing in your m. I really don't want to pile on more either buddy.

But I have to say something about your answer to my question re: "all the secrets" your w referred to in her email (obviously, aside from legally confidential matters). I assumed she was wacking out with her insecurities.

As a married woman I don't get a lot of this behavior. On one hand, I don't feel my h is "entitled" to know what my girlfriends tell me about their private lives. But we know each other's passwords. I think I have looked at his fb page once or twice and I posted a pic on it. He knows mine too, but I doubt he's ever looked.

I have 2 ex bf's from high school/college on FB. I asked h if he minded. He said no. Sometimes I share their posts with h. But - I'd stop in heartbeat if h minded. H just isn't threatened by them or if he is, he hides it well. I have complimented them without flirting, (or so I think.)

It's the hiding that matters, not whether something is actually behind the door, but that the door is locked...make sense?

Denver, I asked you what her comment about the old Denver and "all the secrets" meant, etc.
Here is what I heard from your rather verbose response to my question:

"I openly hid things from my w even though it bugged her and I knew it.
I heard her, but did not care enough or was too proud/stubborn to stop.
I kept in contact with women she was threatened by and kept doing it for years...I gave her reason to distrust me b/c I didn't care how things looked to her. Simply b/c I, Denver, knew I wasn't actually having sex with them, I felt I did nothing wrong " and moreover, blah blah blah....

As I said, I'm Sorry to pile on Denver, but thought you should know how it hit me when I read that answer.

anyhow, carry on. Will post more later...and no, you don't have to have clarity by 9 am tomorrow.

Few of us ever have clarity for long, before something new comes up to confuse us again. Just life.

((( )))