Are you hoping at some point that you can still put your marriage back together? Nothing against that but I am thinking that if that is the case, this evaluation of things you needed to bring to the table in regards to her is a good start.
I know of two couples that divorced, worked through whatever they were going through and then remarried. Obviously if you aren't hoping for a future with her, it is great to evaluate for future relationships.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory