new to the Big D

[ClingingToHope]

The big thing for me was realizing how the kids learn how to treat people from how I/XW treat people.

D12 and D9 have absolutely no problem talking with people in authority or being social. They've grown up watching me around the office and out in the public.

So for two years they watched me treat XW as if she didn't exist because she divorced me. Now, I don't want them thinking that divorce is OK, it's no big deal. When they get married I'm going to sit down with them and ask, are you sure you want to do this because marriage is meant to be forever, not something you casually toss aside because you hit a rut. But I also want them to learn to treat EVERYONE with respect, even those that have hurt you to the core.

That's a huge, huge, huge thing for me.