Why did you do it? Good question here is the best way to answer it. About two months ago I was talking to one of my friends and he wanted to go see his kids in LA but did not have the money to go. He was not asking me for anything we were just talking. The next day I wired him the money to go and told him to go pick it up. No one should be prevented from seeing their kids because of money let alone a friend I have known for 20yrs and was my constant companion through both my Divorces. Why did I give my X the money. For much of the same reason, her grandfather is dying she was very teary eyed when she called and I felt bad. It was not a simple decision to be honest with you grit. I checked with some BITS and with some very close friends. The opinion was unanimous, if I had it loan it to her. She will pay me back and she has not been a scumbag throughout this whole ordeal so there was no reason to be nasty.
I know I did give W money when she needed it but I also was still attached to her wanting our M back.
I don’t know if that played anything into the decision although it was an opportunity to show that I am not the guy she made me out to be.
I wouldn't do it today. Not because I don't care but because I am no longer THAT guy. I will not make a habit of this and this is a onetime deal. Funny story though, my first wife who I have not been within 12 years was in OK visiting her son and she called and asked me for $40 to take him out because she did not have the money at the time but she would pay me back in a few days. I gave it to her. Do I want that M to work? He!! To the mofo NO. But it was for a good cause.
Just askin'. Want you to know for YOU.
Also I know I have to still stop myself from being the rescuer.
Did it make you feel good to be the white knight? At the moment yes………Now……….not so much. In a way I feel used especially when I found out the sister was going. I wanted to cancel the wire but I didn’t. I cycle from thinking it was the right thing to do to I just got played like a fiddle. Oh well. As always grit you make me think.
