Just a quick update because I am running out the door.
I have been reading along but I have not posted much.
I see some of my "old friend" still around and a lot of new posters.
To those of you, who are new, welcome! Sorry you are here.
Anyways here it goes
Friday August 19th I was doing a company run (3 miles) so naturally I left my phone in the car. I have not heard from X since the day before I flew to GA which was around the 2nd of August.
When I came back from the run I looked at my phone
5 missed calls
1 text message
1 VM
I put the phone down and began to get ready to shower since we had a formation coming up.
I spoke to one of the bits about it and they said I should call back.
The text read:
X: Hi. Sorry to bother you. Please call me when u can. It's really important
VM said much the same
Still I wanted to shower and call her back after my formation but the BIT suggested I call
I did
M: Hey what’s up, sorry I was running and did not have my phone with me. What's going on
X: That is ok thank you for calling back. I am sorry to be calling you about this X but my grandfather is in the hospital and they do not think he is going to pull through, he is down to 108lbs I just got home from Tulsa my car is still packed and I do not have a job yet. I want to go see him and so does my mom. I did not know who else to turn to and you do not have to help me and I would understand but I did not know who else to ask.
Grandfather lives in KY
M: I know calling me was probably not a comfortable thing for you. I will help you if I can, you should be able to see your grandfather if he is going to pass away. How much do you think you need?
X: well I was talking with my mom and I will get a job there if I need to depending on how long we have to stay. I was thinking about 1k and if you can't i totally understand. I did not want to call you about this X, and I am not saying that trying to be a b!tch
M: I know what you mean. I am heading to a formation right now so I have to see about this X. I would like to help you out but today is kind of crazy day for me, still i can maybe do something don't know about 1K. Just give me some time here to think about this ok? i will call you back. i know calling me was tough so I don't want to make this uncomfortable for you.
X: I appreciate that X
Hung up. Giving her the 1k was not the problem it is whether I wanted to or not.
Options:
1. "screw you, have your OM who you still claim not to be doing anything with give you the money. I am not a bank"
2. "I guess your perfectly executed plan of escape was not so perfect."
3. "I am sorry but I do not feel comfortable giving you money X. I am not obligated to and I don’t have it"
4. "Have your sister who has been a cheerleader for our D since we got M give you the money, or better yet, have her unfaithful, wife beating husband give you the money"
So I went with option 5
I called her back
M: I am glad I am able to help you and I will wire $600 to your account, I just don't feel comfortable with 1K not right now. I understand you are getting back on your feet and there is no rush to pay me back but please understand that this is a loan not a gift, I am sure you can understand that. That being said take your time getting on your feet before you pay me back.
X: I understand thank you I appreciate it.
Wired the money wished her a safe trip. She thanked me again told me she was waiting for her sister to get there with the van (which pretty much pi$$ed me that her sister was going) and we hung up.
Now I have a real sour taste in my mouth because her leach of a sister who has championed our D since day 1 is taking advantage of this. Oh well. Let it go 2step let it go.
No contact since then
Called yesterday to tell me how her grandfather was doing and a little about the family in KY.
Conversation was short she asked how I was I said good she asked if I would like an update on her grandfather I told her whatever she felt comfortable doing, that I would like to know how it turns out cause I always liked the old man. He was a good dude.
