I do not know if men feel the same as most women do, but all the kindness, caring, and friendship felt towards another human being does not take the place of true, honest love.
Hey Punkin,
I can tell you that I had the same experience "during the act" with a woman that I was "friends" with during my separation.
I have not talked about it before until a couple of weeks ago when I was posting to someone in newcomers.
For men, sex is more of a "need" but not so much as a need to like food, water or air but rather a need to feel emotionally connected to someone.
Men need to feel that emotional connection just like women do.
In order to get there.......we require physical touch, so in a way sex is a "bridge" to that end.
What I found is that when I got to the end of the bridge the person that I wanted to be emotionally close to was not there and therefore I was close to no one.......not my wife nor the woman I was with.
I will agree that relationships while you are in limbo are not a good idea.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
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