Mine was a good dad too. Ok he was at work all day, but he'd love to bath the kids, play with them, etc. Now they see him one night a fortnight - his choice. He never even rings them! Everyone that knows him thinks he's turned into a selfish prick. When you bring kids into the world you are no longer number 1 - he does not get this. He spends more time with OW's kid then his own flesh and blood.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
1 night every 2 weeks?? Wow...... I just don't understand, ok if you don't love me and want to leave me fine. But how can you want to leave your kids? The part that really kills me is that we have lots of conversations about this since we both came from situations where our fathers left us. I never thought he would do this to them.
Ditto. I told him he had to see them more. But he chose to see them one night a fortnight. I've put my foot down and he now does a few hours every second Friday night and then the alternative Sat night they sleep over. He doesn't call or anything in between. He's really running away from his life.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
Wow - although I can't say I'm too surprised. When you accept that he's running away from his "old life" and the kids are part of his old life, well. It's awful, but consistent with his behaviour.
In fact, choosing to see S7 often is *not* consistent with the selfish behaviour I've seen from H. However, given that the schedule was basically drafted by me, and he wants a 3day/4day split, which *is* consistent with his "me me me!" behaviour, it makes sense.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
Big long email from H today about how he didn't mean to upset me by coming over to get stuff when I wasn't there - he thought since I said ok to one day, he had permission to do it "whenever". Bunch of stuff about what he took and why - seriously, like 3 paragraphs just on those two topics.
Then stuff about what he took and why and how if he took anything I want back to let him know and blah blah.
Then more stuff about can he please come get stuff because he just wants to be done moving things but it's hard to divide stuff up since I don't want to talk to him.
Then more about what stuff he'll get, blah blah, he'll come when I'm not there so I never have to see him.
Then! He calls me at work to ask me if I've read the email - literally like, 10 minutes after I got it.
I just said, "Yep, reading it now, thanks!" and hung up.
Really think the email was waaay longer than it needed to be.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
My W was an online Chatty Cathy this past Monday. Tuesday it was back to one-word answers. I've given up trying to make any sense out of this (check out my thread and you'll see why...)
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Well, he has this pattern of contacting me for reasons that are either completely or mostly contrived. I would say about once every 2-3 days I get an email that he didn't need to send.
I'm not sure what the point is - he's moved out, he's "in love" with someone else - there's no point in constantly contacting me.
Stop the ride, I want off.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
