It was the exact opposite with my exh. He was the shy introverted one when we got married but I had come off a bad first marriage with the stereotypical bad boy and a new baby and all I wanted at that time was SECURITY. I realize that now but I didn't then. However, I wanted to make it work but because of so many issues he has like his medical problems and he felt like he couldn't do what he wanted, he said once he felt like just a paycheck, etc, he decided to check out. The problem with that as far as I'm concerned is he checked out on our kids also. Our oldest won't talk to him and the youngest just worries about everything. She knows we are moving and that I can't support us just yet. I am angry at myself for letting it get to the point of not being able to support myself and I have to reinvent that wheel. All that aside I would not take him back even if he wanted. I could never be sure of how he actually felt because he had hidden his feelings for so long. Also I wouldn't put my girls through that again,things are finally settling down. So there is no point for me at least to be friends with him. I was just wondering the reasoning behind anyone doing it. Thanks for responding CTH you have more willpower than I do.
