Get used to it. You will be blamed for everything. My X even blamed me for the amount her lawyer charged her even though we agreed between ourselves and nothing was contested or went to court.
Here's the "catch 22." If she doesn't get everything she wants or has difficulty she will blame and flame you. If you protect her from the consequences of her actions to avoid her spew or because you feel sorry for her you become a sort of enabler (i.e. doormat). At the same time you must accept that your actions or inaction will have no effect on her choices. She's gonna do what she's gonna do.
My heart goes out to you as the two of you have a child, therefore complete detatchment and going completely dark are impossible (I've been there/done that).
It's like being handcuffed to a madman.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
