Really, I'm not super familiar with your sitch but see that we are both in the same place as far as w.
My w wants a D and there is no way to stop her. I DB'ed, 180, and did that which I should do either. Nothing seems to change her mind. That sukks. So I get it and feel your pain.
Let it go honey. The ONLY person you can control is YOU. It doesn't matter what you say or do.. she will say and believe what she needs to in this moment of her life.
You say you want to challenge her. Then continue to be this "new, confident and attractive reallyover" that you say you are. If you ask the same question, regardless on whether it's the new you or the old you, you're gonna get the same answer.
25 reminded me tonight that we DB to save ourselves.. than MAYBE our m.
One other thought....isn't this a bit of a game??? Putting a happy face on when you are miserable. Not talking when it's really what you want to do. Not asking my W where she was last night even though it eats away at me. No longer challenging W on her EA even though it has consumed my thoughts for 8 months
It can be. People sure can misuse it that way. But I think it's more about your expectations. and right now it's about your expectations of her.. NOT You. How about you spin it to read it this way.
How do I stop putting on a happy face when I'm miserable and just be happy? Why do I feel the need to talk to w? Why does w going out bug me so much? What are my insecurities? How can I get past the EA?
Not trying to slam you with 2x4's. I just want you to focus on you. I want you to take care of you.
I don't know to respond to the BGPs. I don't know what they are.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
