I think that is what is just making me the craziest he was a good dad. He loved playing with them and doing fun stuff. Now he wasn't crazy about the bath, homework part. But he loved playing with them. Now all he wants to do is sit on the porch and text on his phone. The crazy thing is we talked about if we ever split up we would put them first and share them 50/50. Both of us had a father who left us as kids. I never thought he would do this to him. I hope this OW is worth it to him. My H's friends all think he is a great dad and we have a great marriage. The past few months he has just turned into a selfish ass