Pretty sure this is a MLC or Identity Crisis

[tested metal]

Well, the W has been hammering me the last few days saying she is going to meet with a lawyer and file for a D. I can see that things are really going downhill for her because she told me she is now in danger of losing her job because she is "f-ing up."

Through this all I am pretty proud of myself, I have reduced my defensiveness and have validated like crazy. I find myself detaching more because her behavior is getting worse and detaching is getting easier... for now.

I have been working on myself in the areas of losing 5 pounds since my last post, reading and being comforted by the resources that are in this thread, spending more time with my daughter, and reconnecting with old long lost friends.

I truely now believe that my W is going through some crazy stuff that has a lot to do with MLC and there is nothing I can do to help her. I am preparing myself for moving in 2 weeks and now she has announced that she is probably moving too. I am becoming more comfortable with my decisions.

I am most proud of myself today because when I went to separate our cell phone accounts, she ranted at me because she would have to have a $400 deposit for her account (because her credit stinks do to her spending habits). She blamed me for the whole thing because she was not a account manager (which the company would not let us do anyway). Due to it really affecting the livelihood of our daughter and would definately push W away, I opted to keep her on the plan until she can get her credit up, but warned her that if she did not pay her share to me on time, she would be cut off. I validated like crazy while she ranted and did not get defensive. That is a huge step for me.

Hopefully I can continue that tomorrow.