just to clarify what I can and with the added info about your d,
I am NOT supportive of all marriages or marriage at "any cost" as I think Beatrice mentioned.
And there's a big downside to having tension in the house all the time. It teaches your d something...wacky and dysfunctional about m. Or men.
Her insight about more calm when it's just you two, is telling.
(And you can learn to cook better! Food isn't just fuel my friend, but a source of cultural learning and joy without gluttony...to do without, is like saying sex is only for making kids...kwim??)
Inertia is powerful Angel. But don't let that run your life. Isn't that part of how you two got here in the first place?
And btw, you don't have to both FEEL committed to the marriage to attend REtrovaille. They'll interview you on the phone and he'll have to end the R with OW if he is to go...but showing up doesn't require a committment.
Of the 25 couples in our class, I'd say at least 5 had partners who wanted out with certainty. They ALL returned for the follow up and now, 3 years later
19 or 20 of us are still married. Not bad, considering what brought many of them there in the first place.
Hope this helps,
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
