Good point on need vs. want. Funny thing is, I was so fiercely independent throughout my M that there were several times that my W told me that “You don’t need me”. I was too ignorant to see what an opportunity that was for me and our M. I should have realized how important she actually was to me. More importantly, I should have told her. I should have shown her. I was not a good husband. These realizations help strengthen my resolve to make the changes I am making in myself. I hate who/what I was. I like who I am becoming.
I understand that my statements may make it seem that I plan to latch onto the first woman I can. Not what I meant. I have no real social circle here. We have been away for over a decade and most of my friends have moved away. When I say I “need” a woman in my life, I don’t mean I need some barfly to move in and take care of me. I simply need to build my social network so that I feel that I have hope of meeting someone that may be what I am looking for in a committed relationship. Right now, my options are pretty limited. Not hopeless, just limited. Most of my acquaintances are married and the ones that are not, aren’t really the type of people I typically socialize with. I hope my GAL activities will help improve that situation.
BTW…just got a call from my atty saying it’s time to pick a mediator. Sent quick TM to W telling her that. Her response was “OK”.
