I can't believe how good you are at understanding my H. It's like you've met him!
Actually, from what I have heard you say, it's more like I am him. Almost.
Talking to you is, in a way, like talking to my W, saying everything I wish I could still say to her. I can't give her this encouragement, because I am the one she has the problem with. I can't show her my insight and apologize, because she has heard too many apologies, and they don't mean anything to her anymore. All I can do is show her my changes. But in the meantime, it is healing for me to help someone else (as much as I can) through what I know I have put her through.
So believe me when I tell you that I am very happy for whatever help I can give you.
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
