by inserting some visitation into the div documents, it's possible you'll force him to see the kids more
and that might be good. If he fails to show up, you document it and get paid more
but make sure you don't set the kids up. Either commit them to time with you and then if he does show up you see them all off for a fun day
and if he doesn't show up, they don't know.
I lived near a single mom with 2 kids, many years ago. Her h had left her for OW (though she was a tad nuts, and I never knew if he actually was ending the Affair...as she sort of forced the issue and made it clear to her kids how he was leaving THEM ALL...she acted out of her anger and fear, pretty much all the time...)
anyhow, I recall seeing the kids sitting on the stairs waiting for their dad, who usually didn't show up. IT was in Texas in the summer, so we're talking frickin HOT days... and the mom made them wait outside...I often wondered if she had set it up intentionally
b/c when I met the dad at son's graduation, he seemed sad but kind.
Point is the MOM could've made it easier on THE KIDS...but was too weird about her anger and victimhood.
You are NOT HER, make no mistake, but see if you can figure out a way to protect them while also supporting some visitation for him. It's his only way back into their hearts
and into some sort of redemption. NO, you do not owe him this.
But you owe your kids your best efforts at forgiving, so they can let go of their own pain. Not for him...for them...and you.
God bless and hold you & yours in these tough times...
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
