Made: Thanks for the encouragement! You're right, much of our sitch's seem very similar as of yet. I have started combing through your first thread and will eventually make it through the rest. However, it does seem from the get-go that our W's are both trying very hard to fill an emptiness inside of themselves and are going down the wrong ways to do this. I would suggest that you take a look the website "Surviving Infidelity" -- it's been a huge help so far. More specifically, look to the FAQ section in the "Healing Library." There are answers written by both WAS' and BS', and they will likely comfort you as they have comforted me. It helped me become a lot more compassionate and understanding of my W despite her current unlovable exterior.
Gritter: My big one is to really get back into my writing. I have always been a writer; in fact, it was what I went to college for. However, I've been extremely lax on it, especially in the last few months. I really need to hop back in the saddle, so to speak. My goal is to finish the novel I'm working on, as well as editing a novel that I've already finished. If I'm going to meet my goals on this, I'm going to have to learn to do it despite what's going on in my personal life.
I'm also working really hard on my exercise regimen. I've been jogging and lifting weights about every other day. My goal is to put on enough weight to where I feel and look strong. Don't know how much that will specifically be; I'll just know. I've never been "built" but I've always had the capacity for it -- I'm a big guy...
My goal is to finish the novel I'm working on, as well as editing a novel that I've already finished. If I'm going to meet my goals on this, I'm going to have to learn to do it despite what's going on in my personal life.