he cries and talks about his shame and how OW was "never worth all this" and he does NOT want a divorce... lots of Words of regrets w/ NO follow up Actions. No contact with the kids in person? None? for a year...???
Do I have this ^^^^ right?
IF I DO, then what choice do you have Life? Going on like this? Really??
Filing may or may not wake him up
but what you've done so far has yielded you and the kids NO contact initiated by him
and money problems, and no predictability...
& No contact with the kids....
so I'm left with wondering what there is to discuss in person?
Didn't he stand you up last time, or cancel at the last minute?
Am I being accurate? Remember to focus on what has actually happened in his actions and NOT his words...
it gets too easy to fall into the trap of confusion with the "I could never come back b/c I don't deserve you and
(which might translate into
"therefore I want you to make it SO easy to either divorce OR take me back, that I don't have to change or try much, b/c even though I'm in pain and am very unhappy and very Uncomfortable with my present choices, it's still easier for me to wallow here in my self loathing, than to bravely face my demons and the damage I have caused and CHANGE"....).
But when you look ONLY at his actions
let's review what we KNOW....and please correct me if I'm wrong here...but are
these the things we know? he left his family home
he does not contact his family
he lives with OW
If this is all true, isn't there some clarity now?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
