I keep coming back to "where is Denver? What is important to him about all of this?"
I realize you use this board to vent/get advice.. but what are you doing to GAL? How are you making yourself happy? Tell us.. or otherwise my advice is to "quit dwealing on your sitch! It's gonna drive you nutz!"
I think you were direct about your feelings but I'm curious to know if you sent it out of an emotional reaction. I truly believe that you are tired. Remember though.. these changes are to make YOU a better a person. Regardless if you are m or not, you will keep fighting, caz this is about YOU. IMO your emails come across as frustration that your w isn't taking notice to your hard changes.. or if she is, she's not doing anything about it.
I honestly don't believe for a second that our WAS don't know what they do to us. She knows she hurt you Den. She knows you love her, she knows you're changing (otherwise she wouldn't be around!). She's just not ready to do anything about it. She's not ready to change HERSELF. So what can she do instead? She can push you. Perhaps pushing you away, or pushing you so she can have peace of mind that her actions are right. Who knows.
All I'm seeing is fear coming from your wife. I'm not one to usually quote scripture, but this just rang so true to me the other day. It's from 1st John.
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love"
I'm still learning what this means in my life, for my w, my sitch, everything. I just think it's something good to work towards. Perfect Love.
IDK.. that's my rambling .02
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
