WTF?!?!

[Harrier]

Since my thought/advice usually go over like a lead balloon, no harm in putting it out here.

I disagree with MHL, by a lot.

First of all. I'd cut the DB speak in the emails to your W. It doesn't sound natural and things have different meanings outside this world that others may not get.

Second, I think you are being too much of a lawyer in your responses to W. I know it's hard, but you gotta take off that hat and start just being you...the good you.

Ex. You said that you told her, "W, I said in that email that I am not dating this woman."

This is what you actually said.

"I haven’t meant to avoid that question W. I just don’t see why it really matters to you at this point. ...., I need to move on with my life. That is what I am trying to do.

As far as dating goes, I was very honest with you that I am opening myself up to that happening. "

Do those even remotely sound a like. Especially with your history (her version) I'm going with your W.

I think you tried to be too cutesy in the first email.


Lastly, I'd stop telling her how much you've suffered this 6 or 9 months. I looks like you completely disregard her feelings over the years. She knows you are hurting you don't need to tell her every time. She knows this is difficult.

Have you ever once acknowledged that the process is difficult for her?

I'm going to say this, and you might think I'm an a-hole, I don't think you've changed as much as you think you have. Personally, I look at my situation 'I can always do better'


Also, I'd like to get some thoughts on this from everyone. Den has a way of being really honest with his W about his motives for not doing things? i.e. "I can't be around you." Is there any benefit to just giving her a white lie like. I'm working an case and really need to focus on that tonight or do an actual GAL activity. I don't think it does him any good to sit around to wait by the phone/email just to tell his wife that he can't be around her.