I would say, though, that pushing for divorce would seem more like reverse psychology than a 180. Plus, it probably won't be genuine, so theres a good chance your W will see right through it.
I think if you establish new boundaries and different expectations, it probably creates enough of a "end of the old relationship" feeling that it becomes clear that the times are a changing.
M: 32 W: 29 T: 9 Years M: 4 Years I hit rock bottom: 2/11 PA admitted: 4/11 WAW: 5/11 D filed: 6/11 now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.