Angel, I have thought a lot about your postings, and I feel very sorry for the situation you find yourself in.
I think you had great advice from 25years. My perspective is different - I am nearly 6 years post bomb, and although my xh is now mostly civil [after years of rage], he has been absent for almost all of the time.
What I am trying to say by this is - most MLC take a very long time to work through. The short ones are truly the exception. So plan for the long haul. The second point is that it is both your journey and his, and I am not sure that waiting around on either side is a good idea [although some great success stories like HB occurred when their spouses never left] Wait by all means, as I did, in the sense that I got on with my own journey, but it doesn't have to be in the stultifying conditions of a single house.
we do not give up on people by leaving them to get on with their journey. A relationship takes two committed people to make it work, imho, although I think we can make positive changes on our own.
While I do think children benefit from having two committed parents, loving co-parenting in separated parents is possible, and I also know people who stayed together 'for the sake of the children' and the children hated the tension.
I think what I am saying is perhaps it is time for you and your daughter to move forward in your journey. It seems to me you h is stuck and holding you back. You have clearly DBed, and it could be the time to do something different.
I am glad I moved on, as my xh is still in MLC. If we had stayed together in the same house, while he worked out his MLC, I do not believe I would have made the personal growth, and forged the strong bonds with my children and made the friendships I did. Do I miss my xh? - very much for the man he was. Not at all for the person he now is . . .
I hope I do not come across as anti marriage. But I am not pro marriage at all costs.
