Read this from my DivorceCare emails and I thought of you. Think it applies to both of our sitches and many others:
"When you are making decisions regarding a new relationship, do not make any decisions based on your feelings. Feelings are temporal and not always rational, no matter how strongly you may feel them. Be wise and take the time to grow and to build your life on a strong foundation."
This would be whether or not we're talking about the "new" relationship with your W or any other "new" relationship you may ultimately have to pursue as a result of your W's choices (fully acknowledging this is not what either of us wants for our lives but understanding it is a possibility).
Moral of the story is? Grow yourself and you'll see a growth that will cover all facets of your life, including your new M with your W if (and when - might as well continue to hope for the best while preparing for the "worst") she comes around.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
