WTF?!?!

[Denver_2010]

[quote=InAPickle]
Remember what I said: you can change all you want to, but if she doesn't, decide if that's the W you can't live without.

My W is as up and down as our situation is. One minute, she is the person that I fell in love with and married, and the next minute, she is the cold, hardened person who left me. THAT is the problem. I would definitely get on board with your point if she was always that cold person.

She is so damn confused about what she wants for her life ... that is what is driving the roller coaster that I am on. [/quote

You have been confused and confusING to her too Denver. Every situation is different. Don't let others project their situations onto you and yours (no offense pickle). But Pickle, unlike your ex w and her "come hell or high water" approach to divorcing you, Denver's wife hasn't been that way.

I'm not saying I see sure signs of recon for them, but I see SOME.

Denver's wife told him she loves and misses him and sometimes, she acts like it...that's something. Sorry Pickle, but IDK what your w said or did, except the end result sounds like she was done from the get go.

If Denver's wife were in those shoes, we wouldn't be here.

Also, just to make sure we don't all forget the things SHE recalls

(and admittedly must let go of SOMEDAY VERY SOON)

but Denver was a real jerk to her-- for a long time. Way Longer than the 9 months of his "new good guy" behavior.

(No offense Den, just using a nicer version of your own words to describe you).

MHL's post rings true and healthy to me, Denver. So,

tell us why you can't GAL and do the good 180s,

all while NOT knowing the future?

Are any of us certain of our futures? (btw, the answer is "no")...

besides, given the above info

Doesn't She have the right to fear reconciling as much as Denver?



Denver, you have to do what the rest of us had to do to become whole (attracting) people...

suck it up, do healthy things, GET HAPPY and move forward, all while NOT knowing the choices others will make...

Truth be told, you CAN do it. You just don't feel like it.

So here's my "HMO version of one stop therapy"---

a slap to the face & yelling for you to "SNAP OUT OF IT!!"

((( )))
PS did that help?

hey 25... just want to let you know that I read this post twice. Did it help? Not tonight. But hopefully it will ring true to me in the days to come. I do need to snap out of it. I have no choice.