Do what I can but still have questions 3

[soccerwife]

H is not speaking to me this evening because I told him again this morning that D is his decision, not mine. He wants it to be a joint decision. He is also mad because S13 saw me crying today and I told him that my heart is breaking. I asked S13 for his help in making the house pleasant (S13 is a very difficult child). H found out that S13 and I talked about things because S13 was in a terrible mood when H got home. Maybe I shouldn't have talked with S13 about it, but he senses something is going on and I feel he deserves to hear both sides (he already heard H's side a few weeks ago).

H also insists that we do not need to go through a Lawyer. If he asks me for a D, I will be speaking with a Lawyer at least for the initial consultation, just to see what my rights are. I have heard that in my state, you must be separated for 3 months to have a D mediated. H apparently has not done much research on the matter. He is still accepting of the idea that we could live together even if D'd.

H wouldn't eat dinner with the family.

I am so lost right now. I don't know which way to turn.