Maybe I see my situation as being closer to reconciliation than others on the outside looking in. Maybe that is my problem.
No maybe about it. That is your problem. It causes you to focus and obsesses about every interaction with your W. Even when you say you've "detached."
Because you look for signs, look for hints, try to feel if she's coming around. It doesn't work like.
I think what you really need to do....is take a brake from all that thinking. What I mean is don't be Gloomy Gus b/c you think your marriage is ending, but don't be Eager Pete because you think recon is just around the corner.
It's emotionally exhausting to switch back and forth. Why not just focus on the now.? What ever that is. Look at the positives. Know the negatives kinda stink, but that doesn't mean they were forever.
It took me a long time to get to that point, and some days are better than others.
Just a quick correction Harrier... I've never said that I was detached. Just that I am trying to detach. or at least I don't think so. guess someone can pull the DB board transcript if I am wrong. lol
You are right man. I need to focus on the now and stop with all of the thinking. I am able to do that some days... others not so much. Today is one of the really bad days.
I am Gloomy Gus today.
It IS emotionally exhausting though... all of it.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
