Maybe I see my situation as being closer to reconciliation than others on the outside looking in. Maybe that is my problem.
No maybe about it. That is your problem. It causes you to focus and obsesses about every interaction with your W. Even when you say you've "detached."
Because you look for signs, look for hints, try to feel if she's coming around. It doesn't work like.
I think what you really need to do....is take a brake from all that thinking. What I mean is don't be Gloomy Gus b/c you think your marriage is ending, but don't be Eager Pete because you think recon is just around the corner.
It's emotionally exhausting to switch back and forth. Why not just focus on the now.? What ever that is. Look at the positives. Know the negatives kinda stink, but that doesn't mean they were forever.
It took me a long time to get to that point, and some days are better than others.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
