Compassion for a MLCer

[broken5150]

Umm, yeah, I do want to reconcile, but not with her mother. I said her mother, not my wife.

My tone is one of man that has changed and I DO have somethings to learn, but marriage is just about the man doing everything. Its a 50/50 thing and it NEVER was a 50/50 thing.

And what changes has my wife seen from me? Ive been told not to ask LOL. I could say, patience, devotion, a better father, a supporter and yes, LESS anger. To be dealing with what Ive been dealing with and NOT show anger? Its kind of asking me NOT to be human.

Will my marriage be better now than before? With out her mother in the picture, YEP! She always relied on her for EVERYTHING!

No, I dont believe she is cheating with both guys. And yes, they DO look like they are in their 20's. And why would a 37 year old mother of 3 be driving these guys around? Oh, she knew that I was hurting from seeing her pics with other men. Then she brings them before me and asks me to shake their hand? You got to have some scrotum and dignity, 25.

Just because my wife had complaints about me, doest it mean that ALL of them were valid? Umm NO. She also claimed that I threatend her life and beat her as well. Ive NEVER laid a finger on her. K?

Oh and about the anger thing again, 20 years have I supported, sacrificed and given her EVERYTHING to at the end, just kick me out of her home to do what every the heck she wanted. Do you really expect me not to be angry? Give me some credit for still being there for her in EVERY way she needs me despite of the hell im going through but, I cant just let her walk all over me.

You see, in our marriage, she ALWAYS controlled the freinds I had, what was done in the house, the way we ate, the church we went to, the way we dressed, EVERYTHING. And I just went along with it. I did and still love her and did what every she asked. She always thought that marriage had NO room for freinds,clubbing and outings without your spouse. NOW she gets a boob job, tummy tuck and hair extensions and now she wants to change the whole story around. And IM supposed to accept this like its nothing? And NOT be angry?