The Next Phase

[betterman77]

Hey boom, isn't it strange that our WAS's behavior is so similiar?

My plan for the immediate future is to refocus on my work. Riding this roller coaster for the past year has set me back a little. We recently opened another division at my company that handles "green" technologies. This has always interested me and when we moved into our most recent house we installed a few solar applications to reduce our electric and oil consumption. The division in the company that was opened deals with mainly the sealing of the house. I need to be certified and there will be a lot of studying involved but it's a good way to stay focused and make some extra money.

Plus football and hockey are starting up and I always enjoyed getting together with the guys to watch the games. I've neglected that over the past few years to be home with the family but it will be nice to reconnect with them and get out of the house.

Other than that the main focus is still with the kids. Between school starting up, and all of their activities it takes up most of my time which I don't mind at all. Watching them enjoy and excel at everything they do still brings me my greatest joy.

I did have a puzzling conversation with the W on Saturday after my IC appointment. She did bring up our R and she suckered me into the conversation. After hearing her rant I told her that I'm not going to be blamed for all that has gone wrong in our M. I told her that I have made my share of mistakes, owned and changed them. I told her she is getting what she wants and I asked why she keep's bringing this up. She says this isn't what she wants and that all she wants is her family. I kind of checked out of the convo then as I had a funeral to go to. I did here her talking to her BF the next day and heard my W say that I blame her for everything which is completely untrue. Just my W playing the victim again. I did realize that no matter what I do or don't do I'm always going to be the villian in her eyes.

As for this comment "This isn't what I want, all I want is my family."

I took that as maybe a moment of clarity in her eyes but at this point she has to work on herself to get this. My W had a HORRIBLE childhood and should have been to C a long time ago. Our MC and my IC happens to be her sister's MIL and has known my W for well over 17 years. She has encouraged her to come and see her in the past and really made it a point to come and see her when we started MC back in December. Of course my W feels there is nothing wrong and she doesn't need it. I really wish she would as it can only be beneficial for the kids.