Ok so I went dark since late June. I have had only couple contacts with WAS since then and they were simple text concerning bills or visits. Which she initiated. I replied with a short answers and that was the end of it. I have kept myself busy with moving into new place with our kids. Getting them ready for school which starts tomorrow. Yes we have been meeting with a C which has helped the kids and I.

I was starting to move to a much better place and wasn't thinking about my stitch endlessly. Two days ago WAS sent text to S stating she had "moved in with Grandparents and was going to start seeing them more" My S told me this and shrugged his shoulders. About an hr later I get a text from WAS saying "Hey". I replied "Hey" and she returned with saying she now lived back in our hometown and would like to see kids more. I said great and asked if her parents let OM move in with them before they moved out. (Bought new home, planned on letting WAS and OM move into old home til it sold) She replied "Oh you don't know?" "I left him too many differences"

So the honeymoon ended. The yr and a 1/2 relationship which was built on deceit fizzled out after nearly 3 months of living together unfettered by kids or me. Which I knew would be the case.

Yesterday I had to work and she started texting small chit chat stuff about her parents new home. I enjoyed the contact being it was the 1st contact we had without bashing each other. Then she sends me pic's of her in bathing suit. UGH why!! I replied "looking good" she beat herself up a bit about gaining weight then asked me to delete pic's. Several hrs go by and she text me about helping In-laws with something on new house. I didn't reply. Again later texts asking if kids could come over and eat dinner. This is the most contact we have had in nearly 3 months.

A flood of emotions has come over me. I can't stop thinking about our stitch. Is this a sign or just a rebound? Is she seeing the light? Should I play this slow? I texted her a good morning this morning. Which I feel was a backslide. Ugh my head is spinning.

Me 44
WAW 37
S 14
D 12

M 18 yrs
T 20 yrs
WAS 7-27-09
WAS #2 6-10-11

"Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome."