Originally Posted By: West
I'm going to be honest, I've felt like a failure our whole R.


This is what I want to know about. Forget about your W right now because what she is choosing is reinforcing more of this about YOU.

YOU. Why do you (did you) feel this way West? Who made you feel so unworthy of happiness that you accepted this as your life?

Originally Posted By: West
At various points in our R, she's made me feel ashamed for being who I fundamentally am.


This is that spot on the treasure map marked with an X. DIG HERE.

Who are you fundamentally and why would you let someone make you ashamed of it?

Do you like who you are?

Let's start by telling us who you are. Your words. Not what W says or thinks. YOU.

Victims allow other people to treat them as such because they accept the behavior that causes the damage.

You are only a victim once, after that, you are a volunteer.

Do you want to continue to volunteer for this punishment?

For what purpose?

I have given you a lot to think about West. And I do want you think about what I have asked because it is more important than your M right now.


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am