I was right, when H got home from his long weekend of single life, he was much more distant than when he left on Friday morning. It happens that way every time.
He was really hurting and I encouraged him to open up to me. I guess I shouldn't have, but I want him to be able to trust that he can come to me with anything and I won't go emotional. Well, he asked me if I would go see a divorce mediator with him. I asked if he would give me 2 weeks to think about it and he flew off the handle saying that I really didn't love him or care about his feelings.
I remained calm and respectful for the entire conversation and finally agreed to go to the divorce mediator meeting for as soon as he gets it set up. I realized that I can not be obstructive to whatever his wishes are. (What he doesn't know is that we can't set up a meeting until after we have been separated for 3 months and we have each already talked to a lawyer, something he does not want to do. I will let him figure all of this out on his own.) I started to feel myself lose my cool towards the end and I started to tell him how much he means to me so I abruptly but pleasantly ended the conversation and told him I needed to take a drive to clear my head.
Did I do the right thing?
I know what I have to do now, absolutely no encouragement for conversation. ONLY speak when spoken to.
Me: 32/ H: 32/ S13/ D5 T: 15/ M: 8 Rock bottom: 4/11 ILYB: 5/11, but I knew it at least a yr before Gaining acceptance: 8/11
You must be the change you wish to see. - Mahatma Gandhi
