If and when she contacts you, and you THINK she's probing or doing it half ass or simply
not coming out and saying all that you need to hear right away...
don't ignore her, okay?
Be kind and clear and consistent and NOT demanding.
You have a lot to prove to her, just as you feel she has to prove to you.
Don't make this about her crawling back, which I know was not your intent.
I simply worry (a little) that if she contacts you or reaches out to you'
and it's Not wrapped exactly the way you want it to be, you'll reject it/her.
Just a thought.
Remember the book, "The 5 Love Languages"? And remember that workshop I told you about?
I attended the workshop with a male doctor who talked a lot about his w and marriage. He spoke of how she didn't do the things he needed from her, or the way HE wanted.
he spoke of how dissatisfied he was in general.
Towards the end of the weekend/workshop, he discussed how his wife had asked about coming to see him finish/"graduate".
He said he wanted her there, so she made plans to come.
Then he changed his mind, (he had his reasons) so she changed her plans and decided not to drive up.
Then he wanted her there again, and she again made her plans accordingly but asked him if he was "sure this time."
He was about to get irritated at her for that comment, when instead, he Suddenly stood up, in tears, and said
"All this time, she's been trying to love me in her own 'lane' and
I've been letting it pass me by b/c it wasn't coming in exactly the way I wanted it to come in...
all the love I've turned away from, such a waste."
That's a true story but simply something I wanted to share with you to think about. But No hidden meaning.
We're all pulling for you Denver.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
