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"Had a good nights sleep last night - had a dream that H wanted to get back together, and I tried, but was miserable - so I asked him to leave."

Funny...I was thinking about what it would be like to get back together with my W, and I came to the same conclusion; I think it would be a train wreck.

Does his mean we have reached the summit of detachment?

I'm sorry to read about how your S is having a tough time. I think you are wise in keeping his visits with your H and you short so he is not away from either of you for a long time. I also think that a longer visit with either of you would result in a difficult transition back to the other parent.