The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

[LearningPatience]

Well, first MC session over. W and I both really liked her. I'll try to remember what she asked and how we replied...

MC got our basic info, how we got to where we were, what we first saw in each other, where we thought things started going wrong, etc. She asked us, on a scale of 1-10, where 1 was sunshine and rainbows, where we thought our R was. W answered 9, I answered 6. W and I both admitted where we went with OP (I had a crush on mutual friend, W, well...). Interestingly, W admitted OM is just someone to do things with, someone spontaneous with a good income, and that she doesn't have strong feelings for him, and that he probably has much stronger feelings for her. (nice run-on sentence btw). I agreed, knowing OM for 10 years or so.

Perhaps the most interesting thing MC told us is that statistically, when one partner is with OP, M therapy doesn't do much good. She said she'd still work on communication between us, but just wanted us to know ahead of time. I knew this already, don't think W did. All in all, session was a little sad but nothing I didn't expect.

Went back to W house after to pick up some things. Joked around a little about each of us taking the other out to lunch, so I ended up taking W out for wings and beer. Had a good time while out. Not much R talk, but lots of talk about us as individuals. I found out W won employee of the year for her group, I was very excited for her and not in the least bit surprised! W downplayed it, and I mentioned how I always believed in her, even when she didn't (W has lots of self-esteem issues). We talked about trips we wanted to take and sports we wanted to play. Told her if she ever got tickets to Lambeau Field I was hiding in her trunk Talked about our jobs and finances, and about our kids. I mentioned something like after D we could get back together (or something like that) and she said maybe after my oldest son grew up. We also talked about MLC, I told her my experiences being a WAS from first W. Without specifically saying it, admitted that she was also in MLC. She just needs time to herself to figure out life, and I was a champ in validating those feelings.

So, where are we now? I *truly* don't think she's done with me. We still have lots of time scheduled apart due to both of us GAL (though she's kinda tired from all of hers). We both kinda hinted at doing things with each other. I'm supposed to go to a concert with a friend, but he's pretty flaky, so I asked if she wanted to be the backup. She didn't say no, but she wasn't too thrilled about it being a Monday night. Guess we'll see. Even if we D, she still wants to be friends, and at this point, I guess we'll see. Like I told the MC, my 1st W is one of my best friends right now, so I guess anything can happen.