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Yeah thanks jb! I lol'd at that as well. laugh

Animals can totally sense when you are sad. When my H left, for the first 3 days all 3 of my cats slept with me all night, and they never do that.


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'Tis true...the 3 hounds follow me around the house and always camp out in whatever room I'm occupying.

If only our spouses were so loyal.


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Great point!
What kind of hounds? I love Basset Hounds, and I've had 2 of them in my life and I want another one.


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2 of them are from a rescue shelter, so we don't know their bloodlines; they are definitely mixes. #3 is a male from a litter #1 and #2 had 4 years ago. So I used the term "hounds" kind of generically.


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Well, my "up" mode could last only so long, I suppose...today's been a rough one. It's been 2 weeks since W moved out, and in that time I have not seen her at all and have had only a few TMs back & forth.

So, yes, I'm missing her. Or at least, I'm missing who she used to be with me. I'm missing having her in the house to talk to and to hold and just to know there is someone else here.

I'm trying to work up the energy to get out the door and go to the gym when all I really want to do is take a nap. Except I don't have my comfy sofa to take a nap on.

I need to just walk through this and get to the other side. Fortunately I'm gong out tomorrow to hear a friend's band so that will keep me occupied.

Hope she's not having any fun today, either...spiteful, spiteful, spiteful...


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I'm sorry you are having a bad day. I still have them even after 4 months. We all do.

Feel the sad, anger, spite, take a nap and then say "ok that's enough. I've given u enough time today w. Time to think of me now!" and go make yourself feel better.

You are such a great person. I find ur posts kind and inspiring.
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Ah yes, the ups and down of all of this really stinks.

I know the feeling of wanting to lay around and not be productive. It is ok to do that once in a while but promise yourself after today you will get out the door and do something for yourself.

I get extremely lonely when my kids are with their Dad. It's very quiet without my H.

Chin up Telemark.


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Telemark, I think some days you just have to push yourself out the door to do stuff. However there are other days where you just have to give yourself the permission to pull your covers over the head, so to speak.

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Hope she's not having any fun today, either...spiteful, spiteful, spiteful...

I know this feeling all too well. I feel bad about feeling so good about it.

Hang in there, man. I'm in your corner and I'm praying for you.


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I feel for you Tele. Am feeling much the same way. We need to figure out how to snap out of it.

Remember, tomorrow is another day. Let's let it be a better day.


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I am sorry you are having a bad day Telemark. I hope tomorrow is a better one. I know it is hard to make yourself get out of the house but you will feel better if you do.

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